This will be a very short post, because I simply wanted to report on the return of an adjunct professor in relationship dynamics to the ‘ex back’ scene.
His name is Roger Kessler, and he’s commonly known as The Ex Back Guru. See his new website for the most recent guide to getting your ex back and lots more useful research from the Guru himself.
Lesson Number 1: Online dating mistakes men often make when they’re first starting
Online dating has grown to become one of the most common ways of socializing. Many people, both young and old, have gone on to join at least a single dating network for dates or more.
In this online dating advice column, I’ll talk about one of the most pitfalls you really need to avoid…
One really big mistake that many online dating beginners make is that they do side-by-side comparisons of the profiles that they’re viewing, hoping to see who meets their predetermined set of criteria. While reducing the pool of potential mates is beneficial, having a checklist-mentality and not letting each profile stand on its own merit will limit possibilities in a negative way.
Online dating can sometimes create an environment that encourages selection based on the most sought-after traits (e.g. appearance) but the most attractive people online are the least likely to reply because they’re trying to handle the overflow of messages they’re getting themselves.Looking beyond these traits and focusing on what would make you connect with a given lady is key.
The challenge is that many men don’t invest the required time and effort that’s required to put together a good online dating profile. That requires that you develop a trained eye to distinguish between those that simply don’t care and those that are serious about portraying their best image.
Idea #1: If your partner is starting a new job, buy a copy of “The Sound Of Music” sound track. Tape the song, “I Have Confidence” onto a tape and add your own message at the end of the song saying, “Good Luck honey, I have confidence in you.” Give the tape to your partner to play on the way to work in the car.
Idea #2: When your spouse has had a really long hard day, run a hot bath for her. Pour some fragrant bath oil into the tub and gently bathe her from head to toe. Carry her into the bedroom. Gently towel her dry and tuck her into a freshly made bed with a kiss on the forehead.
Idea #3: If you play a musical instrument, create a romantic environment in which to play for your partner. For example, let’s say you play the saxophone. Contact your partner’s roommate and arrange for her to make sure that your partner steps out onto the balcony of their apartment at exactly 9.30pm. Drive to her apartment and set up beforehand. Place a large sparkler in the music holder of your sax and light it as your partner steps on to the balcony. Play something slow and romantic.
Note: special thanks to Mike Webb for pulling this rubbish out of his ass.